A closed circle, opened by hand
No instant sign-up: every application is read, and every person is met by Olivier and Muriel before entering. You know who is on the other side of the screen — and so do they.
Why Connivence
What sets us apart
Connivence is not just another dating site. It is a private circle, by application, run by hand by Olivier and Muriel. Its advantages read in four parts: what all members share, what couples receive on top, what Connivence Premium — the Eyes Wide Shut circle — receives on top, and what is reserved for courtisé·e·s.
Contents
Where to find your advantages
Four parts, four tiers: the advantages add up as you go deeper into the Circle. Find yours, and go straight to what is yours — each part is presented as a five-star service.
Part I · Shared by every member
Five-star service
The Connivence Circle — the shared advantages
What everyone admitted into the Circle receives, couple or courtisé·e alike. It is the foundation: the tools, the outings, the addresses and the discretion — the same for all, at no extra cost.
A profile that truly says who you are
Presentation, situation, generation, professional field, passions, languages, boundaries, what you are looking for: your profile tells of a person, not an advert. Public photos, plus private albums you open only to whom you choose.
Truly finding each other, not passing by
When a profile opens, shared points appear as badges: same region, same generation, same professional field, a shared passion, the same preferred first-meeting place, the same mood that evening. The directory filters by region, gender, experience and presence.
Geolocated presence, in your hands
The 'Available tonight' signal shows who is nearby when you feel like going out. Only you decide to switch it on, and you can turn it off for good in your settings.
Talking without giving yourself away
Private messaging, including group threads to prepare a meeting for several. Your private albums open case by case, with an expiry date and the option to withdraw access at any time.
Going out: the calendar and the evenings
A calendar of outings — shows, exhibitions, concerts, clubs, dinners — in month, week or list view, with events suggested by members and the evenings of the Circle's verified organisers. You mark your interest, and you meet around a shared desire.
The address map and the Journal
Clubs, restaurants, hotels, bars, boutiques: a map kept up to date and enriched by members' suggestions. And dozens of articles signed by Muriel, on how to host, how to talk, how to choose a place.
The Confessional
A separate address to write directly to Muriel, when a word cannot be said elsewhere. She reads it herself, and answers with the delicacy that confided things deserve.
Discretion by default
Photo blurring on request, watermarking, no data resale, no third-party widgets: your profile and your exchanges stay inside the Circle. A profile can be paused or hidden in one gesture.
Part II · On top of the shared advantages
Five-star service
Couples — what comes on top
Adds to every shared advantage of the Circle.
A couple joining the Circle does not arrive on a public square. They arrive in a house where the rooms have names: what you show, what you keep, what you share, and with whom.
A profile in two voices
Chinese portrait, libertine philosophy, each of your tastes, respected boundaries, languages spoken, circles and clubs: your page tells of a couple, in two voices — not two adverts side by side.
Your rules, in black and white
Notes before meeting, condom policy, attitude to alcohol, availability, preferred first-meeting places: the frame is set before, never during.
Your private albums, opened case by case
Photo and video galleries, named as you wish, opened couple by couple, with an expiry date and an access you can withdraw at any time.
Your address book, your notes
Keep track of your encounters in a private address book: contact details, phone, WhatsApp, ratings, comments, lists. A book that belongs to you alone, to keep the memory of the Circle.
A chain of relationships
Mark the couples you already know: when your profile opens, your relationships appear, and the Circle reads as a chain of acquaintances rather than a catalogue.
Hosting your own evenings, and being recognised
Do you host? Your organiser page is verified by Olivier and Muriel, then opened to members: presentation, venue, rhythm, photo bank, past and upcoming evenings, participation requests.
Ambassador status
Your personal link, ready-written messages for WhatsApp, email, SMS, Facebook or post, a monthly invitation quota tracked month by month, and the dashboard of your filleuls. The people you recommend are presented directly to Olivier and Muriel.
Part III · On top of the couples' advantages
Five-star service
Connivence Premium — the Eyes Wide Shut circle
Adds to the shared advantages and to those of couples.
The Circle's most closed circle. Here, discretion is not a box ticked on a form: it is the condition of entry. Nothing is named, everything is symbolic.
A veiled profile
A symbolic pseudonym, never a real first name or identifying detail, a standardised masked-couple avatar: nobody recognises you, and you recognise nobody.
Invisible outside the circle
Your page appears neither in the Circle's directory nor to a member who has not been admitted into Eyes Wide Shut. It exists only for those who are in it.
Allure rather than civil status
Professional universe, allure, situation, sought atmosphere: a presence is described, not an age or a trade. The portrait reads as a silhouette, never as an identity.
Chosen universes
Oenology, collecting, patronage, performing arts, letters, gastronomy, photography: affinities appear as discreet symbols, and encounters form on that ground.
A signed confidentiality charter
A reciprocal commitment, accepted on entry: what is said, seen and lived in this circle does not leave it. That is precisely what makes freedom possible.
A dedicated assistance line
A privileged channel to reach the team, ask a delicate question or prepare a meeting. You are never alone facing a situation.
Introductions made by hand
Every admission is pronounced personally by Olivier and Muriel, and introductions are made the same way. Nothing is left to an algorithm.
A separate space
A veiled directory and messaging reserved for members admitted into Eyes Wide Shut: a circle within the Circle, with its own codes.
Part IV · Reserved for courtisé·e·s
Five-star service
Courtisé·e·s — what is their own
Beyond the shared advantages, here is what is reserved for courtisé·e·s.
Courtisé·e·s are neither profiles to consume nor invitations to answer. They join the Circle on recommendation, and are approached only by couples, by invitation.
They come to you, never the other way round
Inside the Circle, the first message always comes from a member couple, and only by invitation. You receive neither anonymous requests nor mass messages.
You keep control
You choose whether to talk or not, and you may contact other courtisé·e·s if you wish. Your page can be paused, hidden, and your presence signal switched off in one gesture.
Writing to other courtisé·e·s
You can write freely to the Circle's other courtisé·e·s, from the courtisé·e·s gallery: everyone keeps the same discretion, and member couples still come to you on invitation.
A place prepared, not a lost profile
You are recommended by a couple of the Circle or by an ambassador, introduced on arrival, and your profile is highlighted during your first encounters.
A profile made to your measure
Gender, situation, generation, professional field, passions, languages, what you are looking for, your boundaries: your profile speaks of you, solo, with the same standard demanded of couples.
Muriel helps you write your portrait
A courtisé·e profile lives on what it gives to read. From your space, ask for Muriel's coaching in one gesture: she helps you write a truthful text and care for your photos.
You appear in their shared points
When a couple opens your profile, shared affinities appear — region, generation, passions, evening mood. That is what makes them want to write to you.
Going out without going alone
The calendar of cultural outings and private evenings, and the evenings of the Circle's verified organisers: enough to meet around an exhibition, a concert or a dinner.
Becoming an ambassadrice or ambassador
A recognised status in the Circle, your personal link, ready-to-send messages, a tracked invitation quota and a dashboard of your filleuls.
No commitment
Free, with nothing to cancel
Membership is free, and so is the discovery month. No bank details will ever be asked of you, and there is nothing to cancel: without renewing, your profile simply fades out on its own.
An application is neither an invitation nor an admission: every request is examined personally by Olivier and Muriel.